What I do ….
Help you choose your own journey by helping you remember who you once were before life told you who to be.
Hi, I’m Randi, your partner on this exciting journey. It’s easy to feel that it’s too late to change; that your ship has sailed on without you. It’s also easy to see your life as a series of mistakes that define who you are. The good news is that until we take our last breath, we’re allowed to figure out who we are, who we’re supposed to be, and what our purpose and meaning is in life. We can wake up at our own time and speed and begin the next chapter. We get to forge ahead despite our beliefs that our fates have been sealed by a life not lived well and wasted. How we evolve at whatever time in our life is ours to own. We get to reflect on our past decisions and narrate how we’ll forge ahead to lead a life that feels right.
I am a Clinical Mental Health Counselor focusing only on coaching. My goal in coaching is to effectively help you create a life of fulfillment and meaning by helping you recognize the unconscious patterns that may be controlling your life and your relationships. My goal is to help you recognize that change is always a possibility and the journey of uncovering our authentic self doesn’t always have to be a dream that belongs to someone else. We get to define what happiness means and live the best versions of ourselves.
I can be reached at (203) 216-7940 (text or call) or email me at: shamitzcounselingandlifecoach@gmail.com
Services
Fuel growth, one insightful question at a time.
Personalized 1-on-1 coaching
You get to narrate, and I get to listen and together we’ll figure out where you’re feeling stuck. The hand we’re dealt or hardships that have defined us don’t have to chain us down. We can rise and forge ahead despite our fears and find the missing pieces that help structure the life we see for ourselves. You get to exist and live and experience the ebb and flow of life and to be okay when the vision gets blurry. Together, we’ll find whatever you deem is your best self; one that provides you with the answers you seek.
…”the magic you’re looking for is in the work you’re avoiding….”
-Dipen Parmar
It’s never too late to shed old skin …
…Life is imperfect
We don’t always get to decide what home we’re born into or who are parents are. We can mourn over all the things that could have been, and ask ourselves, if only I had known better, who would I have been? We don’t always get a redo for the detours we took in life, and, thus, we must claim all parts of our lives even if they are too painful to reflect back on. Life can at times be imperfect, and we can take predicable paths, one that was expected for us that in the end, feels like a dead place to be. Sometimes we have little to no options when deciding on our lives because we weren’t all born with the luxury of a choice. But we can wake up when the timing is right because it’s never too late to shed old skin.
..”the point is not what we expect from life, but rather what life expects from us ..” -viktor frankl
When it’s time to set yourself free …
It’s easy to feel the passage of time and lost with questions about where you belong. What’s hard is to change when you feel it’s too late or too afraid of all the unknowns. If we’re sitting idle and observing the movement of time, and we’re feeling bare and lost to the world, in the end, we get to narrate whether this is how one chapter will end and the birth of another. It’s never too late to start over. We renew when we leave for college and when we begin to live our lives. We renew when the time is right regardless of whether we’re in our 20’s or 90’s. When we feel a tug, no matter who we are or where we are in life, it’s a signal that it’s time to set yourself free.
…having regrets when you gave everything is wasted time … – maxine lagace
Watch me fly …
We all had dreams of who we thought we were and who we wanted to become when we got older. We saw ourselves making money but somehow it doesn’t seem as satisfying as we thought it would be. Maybe we saw ourselves as poets, but somehow found our way into law school. When we aren’t aligned with our authentic selves, we can mute our discomfort and turn to substance use to quiet the urge to run, somewhere. Taking a bold step to begin the process of unraveling yourself is in the end your own personal awakening. It doesn’t always feel good to leave parts of ourselves behind as we pivot and realign the pieces that once created who we thought we were. Taking flight can be a rebirth and the shedding of our old self.
…life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely, in a well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting “holy shit, what a ride!” … -hunter s thompson
I am the captain of my soul
Out of the night that covers me, Black as the Pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears Looms but the Horror of the shade, And yet the menace of the years Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.
-William Ernest Henley
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